Anxiety, Panic, Depression and Phobia linked to school
- Bullying (visit Beating the Bullies)
- Feeling excluded and 'got at' - a cruel torment for any child or teen
- School phobia, which may reflect conditions at school or may stem
family, due to deep-rooted insecurity
- Panic attacks and the fear of more to come
- Depression, causing persistent gloom and low motivation. It occurs
most often when people have little control of their lives
- Agoraphobia - a fear of public places or, more generally, 'a fear of
- Anxiety about meeting the social and work demands of school. This is
Nervous, pressured teachers can't help infecting their pupils!
Will the problem fade by itself or do we need help?
This photo says it all: One child in seven needs help with anxiety or similar issues.
A modest level of anxiety means that the body and mind are keyed up to cope with a new challenge. It goes with being switched on and ready! See it like that and you weaken its hold! The remaining anxiety fades away as the challenge is met.
Severe anxiety can disable the youngster, who fails to cope and feels all the more anxious. Panic attacks can then set in, and these can cause agoraphobia due to a fear of losing control in public.
your youngster’s anxiety is becoming excessive you need to act decisively to
head off these dangers. Dithering now will tell them you’re as anxious as they are, which is not what they need. Here are some of the things you can do:
- Try to ensure that your youngster feels heard by someone they
- Make sure
they feel heeded, with a really big say in how to
move forwards. For a start, perhaps you could work as partners
in weighing up the advice on this page
- Make sure they feel upheld as individuals, with plenty of scope to
succeed or fail in things that matter
- Try to maintain routines such as school attendance. In any case, keep the school
avoidance due to deep-seated fears and worries as casual 'skiving.'
- Consider the option of home education, which could ease symptoms
and suffering and open up a space for healing. To begin home
just ask for your child to come off the school roll. Then, provided
you do home educate, you answer to no one.
When families visit us they often reserve their warmest praise for my wife's ponies!
- Follow NHS guidance about exercise: it's a marvellous aid in the fight
- Consider having a word with your doctor, who can arange professional
counselling on the NHS (though there may be a wait). Medication
can sometimes help, but it often works best along with counselling
- Because of my own unhappy childhood (it's me in the school photo!),
I try to assist in milder cases of school-age depression and anxiety.
I'm CTA-trained but I'm not an expert and I don't make a charge.