Beating the Bullies

Bullying is a scourge, ruining or even ending school for some of its victims.

The following cases show the harm and misery it can cause:

I felt unhappy and tormented in every part of my life. I tried to ignore the name-calling but it just got worse.  A 12-year-old.

At break, they pushed Joanne over and kicked her. The worst part was what they threatened to do to her after school.  The parent of a 10-year-old.

Unfortunately, my 'rough kid' background attracted the bullies at my posh little school. Then after school my 'posh kid' uniform attracted all the estate bullies, too.  An adult's memory (my own, in fact).

Some schools bang the 'no bullying' drum but then act weakly or clumsily  when cases occur. A measured response like the following often brings better results:
Congratulations to Taliah Linning for this gentle poster on an issue that can hurt so much
A bullied youngster may well be prone to anxiety and depression, and for help with these problems please click here.

A trusted teacher

  •  gently probes the victim's feelings ("being so lonely kills me" etc.)   
  •  gathers a group of pupils including the bullies but not the victim
  •  explains the victim’s suffering, possibly using a picture or piece of
           writing they've done
  •  emphasizes their need to feel happy and safe
  •  welcomes ideas like ‘I’ll walk to school with him’
  •  meets everyone (including the victim) individually after about a week
            to check on  progress.

This approach

  •   confronts the bullies with the full extent of the victim's suffering
  •   sets an example of caring (rather than using force like a bully)
  •   brings out the best in the other pupils, which lowers the bullies' status
  •   frees victims from the fear of reprisals, since no one is punished.

Victims can have their say about bullying

and earn a reward!

 The challenge is to produce

* a piece of writing called 'Beating the Bullies' or ...

  * a second poster for this page to go with Taliah's, above.

For additional options please click here,

  or use this form to get in touch about bullying or creative work.

Tony D Triggs

Sadly, teachers can be bullies, too
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The advice above is based on Crying for Help: the No Blame Approach to Bullying, Robinson & Maines, Lucky Duck Publishing, 2000.