Beating the Bullies
Bullying is a scourge, ruining or even ending school for some of its victims.
The following cases show the harm and misery it can cause:
I felt unhappy and tormented in every part of my life. I tried to ignore the name-calling but it just got worse. A 12-year-old.
At break, they pushed Joanne over and kicked her. The worst part was what they threatened to do to her after school. The parent of a 10-year-old.
Unfortunately, my 'rough kid' background attracted the bullies at my posh little school. Then after school my 'posh kid' uniform attracted all the estate bullies, too. An adult's memory (my own, in fact).
A trusted teacher
- gently probes the victim's feelings ("being so lonely kills me" etc.)
- gathers a group of pupils including the bullies but not the victim
- explains the victim’s
suffering, possibly using a picture or piece of
- emphasizes their need to feel happy and safe
- welcomes ideas like ‘I’ll walk to school with him’
- meets everyone (including the victim) individually after about a week
- confronts the bullies with the full extent of the victim's suffering
- sets an example of caring (rather than using force like a bully)
- brings out the best in the other pupils, which lowers the bullies' status
- frees victims from the fear of reprisals, since no one is punished.
and earn a reward!
The challenge is to produce
* a piece of writing called 'Beating the Bullies' or ...
* a second poster for this page to go with Taliah's, above.
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The advice above is based on Crying for Help: the No Blame Approach to Bullying, Robinson & Maines, Lucky Duck Publishing, 2000.